Dad dating daughter
We don’t need some big, bad patriarchal figure to hold the door or compliment our inner beauty.
We deserve men who are equal partners, who share life’s journey with us, and who treat us as equals.
While I don't fault the woman who posted this, I am pretty uncomfortable with the overall idea of "daddy-daughter dates." On Life Way’s “3 Benefits of Father-Daughter Date Nights,” a father asks, on a "date" with his seventh-grade daughter, “How have you felt during our date tonight?
I don’t want you to expect anything less from a boy you’re dating.” The site notes that he “opened doors, pulled out chairs, asked her questions and offered kind words about her external and internal beauty.” Nor are these two examples outliers.
offer a range of possible explanations for it, including a primordial feeling of always having “belonged” to the estranged relative, a sense of wanting to experience the bonding missed out on during childhood, or simply an overwhelming closeness based on similarities: like meeting a mate who was designed for you in a science lab.
Perhaps couples and notes that he’s only had a few father-daughter couples speak out, speculating that many of them fear that others will assume the daughter must have been abused in childhood (it should be said that when these unions lead to children, those children can face potentially serious difficulties as a result of the genetic implications of incest, even if some online communities downplay theseestrangement.
I almost have panic attacks whenever I think back to all of those poor, unfortunate girls who danced with me at high school proms, tolerating my sweaty awkwardness as we lumbered through the long version of “The Lady in Red.”I have a lifetime of iconography, emotions, and baggage that my mind associates with formal dances, so the idea of attending one with my DAUGHTER…yeah, it made me uncomfortable.
Fortunately, the night ended up being much less strange and much more benign than I thought it would be.
He helped her pick out a dress for her to wear, got a little purse ready for her, held the door open for her, and made her feel like a princess. She will always know how she deserves to be treated because her dad sets such a high example.
As the guy showed up at the house for the first date, this dad went to get his daughter, only to find her in her bedroom closet in tears, with anxieties about the date, the guy and how to manage her conflicting emotions.
It was one of those father and daughter moments that this dad would never forget.
What was your family like when you were growing up?
My parents had me when they were 18 — they met in high school and I was conceived on prom night.